Two months into our marriage my husband and I celebrated our first Valentine's Day together. He bought me a plunger. Now if that doesn't say something about the difference between the expectations of men and women on Valentine's Day (and when it comes to marriage) nothing will.
The tenth Valentine's Day we celebrated as a married couple, my husband bought me flowers, a nice card with an even nicer message hand-written inside, and (very important) a box of fine chocolates from a local chocolatier. I think you'll agree that we've come quite a ways in ten years.
The reason for that is quite simple really. I've gotten much better at communicating my expectations and he has gotten much better at hearing those communications.
Everyone talks about the importance of understanding and communicating your expectations before you get married. You are warned to talk about: how many kids you want, whether your squeeze or roll your toothpaste, religious beliefs, keeping your house warm or cool, and how you like to spend your vacations. But what about after you are married? Expectations are not problem then, right?
The tenth Valentine's Day we celebrated as a married couple, my husband bought me flowers, a nice card with an even nicer message hand-written inside, and (very important) a box of fine chocolates from a local chocolatier. I think you'll agree that we've come quite a ways in ten years.
The reason for that is quite simple really. I've gotten much better at communicating my expectations and he has gotten much better at hearing those communications.
Everyone talks about the importance of understanding and communicating your expectations before you get married. You are warned to talk about: how many kids you want, whether your squeeze or roll your toothpaste, religious beliefs, keeping your house warm or cool, and how you like to spend your vacations. But what about after you are married? Expectations are not problem then, right?
